#YesAllWomen More than just a hashtag

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Initially created in response Elliot Rodgers brutal rampage #YesAllWomen has taken on a life of its own. Rodgers made it  very clear clear in his 141 page essay and in his youtube video that his actions were not his fault. Women were to blame because they refused to accept his sexual advantages.’ How dare they say no.

It’s almost comical that from misogynistic hatred of one very troubled young man a movement has sprung that has the potential to do so much good for women’s rights.  

Some people might think that #YesAllWomen is just another twitter trend on a par with #selfie or #KeepingItReal. But It’s so much more than just a trend.

Statistically 80% of a rapes or sexually assaults on women go unreported. Of those that are, very few lead to conviction.Because women are made to feel guilty. That their rape is their own fault, because of what they were wearing or because they had a glass of wine. But in participating in #YesAllWomen, in sharing just one instance of when you felt threatened and uncomfortable by unwanted sexual advances, women are slowly gaining  confidence that will change these statistics. In standing up on a Global Internet platform and saying no. No, I didn’t want it. No that wasn’t okay for you to do that, or say that, or touch me like that. In highlighting all those little episodes that occur far to often, that make you feel uncomfortable, that you shrug off as something that as a woman you just have to deal with is paving the way to so much more.

#YesAllWomen is Change. In highlighting  those little things for the first time those things can not be dismissed out of hand, Not when there are thousands upon thousands of women who are saying the same thing.

           No we are not overreacting, nor are we imagining things and it is most certainly not a compliment.

 

Countless times I’ve been harassed in the street. Had abuse hurled at me by strange men. Been followed, been grabbed and bruised by strangers who will not accept that I’m not interested. I’ve been pushed into the corner of a club, pinned there by someone twice my size to be told ‘you know you want it’ as they try put a hand down my top or up my skirt, terrified, because as much as you push, as much as you struggle in those few moments you are very very aware that you can do nothing.  Because it’s a well known fact that a short skirt is open invitation, and if you can see a hint of cleavage the girl may as well be saying ‘Come at me Baby’.

Hmmmmmm,

Nope. Pull the other one next time, It has bells on.

I’ve been lucky. Someone has always noticed, friends or strangers, someone has intervened but that isn’t the case for everyone.

In giving voice to the experience, beyond the momentary half muttered ‘creep’, that experience is not dismissed and forgotten. The more people talk about something, the more it is acceptable for that thing to talked about. And if we can talk about those little things, we can talk about the big ones.

Women can go to the police, they can report an assault without shame, confident in the knowledge that because of #YesAllWomen they know it was not something they did, it was something that was done to them. That is why #YesAllWomen is so much more than just a hashtag.

Back off B**ch!! Sharing Platter doesn’t mean I’m sharing!

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Most people in the world are good, honest and probably respectable. But there are some among you; you walk like us, you talk like us but you are not us. The lowest of the low…

 

FOOD STEALERS!

We all know one. We all know more than one, THEY MUST BE STOPPED!

They come in different forms,

The sneaky “I’ll just have a coffee people.” They sit there and just help themselves to your meal!! WTF?!?! You had the option of having your own and you turned it  down. Stop using me as a free meal!!!

The “can I have a bite of yours? it looks so good people” who when you agree because you feel mean saying no, load up their fork with as much as they possible can. When I said you could have a bite, I meant a human sized one, not Godzilla!!!

The “oh we’ll just share people”. Really? It’s news to me!! So why on earth are you telling the waiter to bring two forks?? I want the whole cake, not the parts I have to fork duel you for!!!

And the worst, the absolute Scum on the bottom of a shoe; the “are you going to finish that? people.” Yes. Yes I bloody well am…Wait, what? Why have you stolen my plate?…Oh you’re giving it back…And you’ve even licked it clean of crumbs…Thanks.

NO MORE!!!

I’m taking a stand! I don’t care if it’s something I hate, I don’t care if it’s over cooked, undercooked or fucking on fire! I’m going to choke it down if I have to because IT IS MINE!!!! Stop Trying to steal from me! You wouldn’t break into my house and steal my stuff, so why??/ Why do you have no problem stealing what I’m literally about to put in my mouth??? 

Take this as a warning World, if anyone and I mean anyone tries to eat MY meal you really won’t like what will happen next. 

Don’t know how to tell a food stealer to stop stealing? Direct them to this post! Facebook it! Tweet about it! Write it in the sky if you have to! The world is changing and it has no place for sneaky little food stealers!!!!

 

 

If you’ve found a creative way of dealing with the Food Stealers tell me the story. They deserve to be punished.

Transfer Deadline: To dump or not to dump, that is the question

It seems to be a universally acknowledged rule, that relationships can not end in the run up to Christmas, or immediately afterwards. To do so is to be branded a cruel heartless monster of a human being!

But at what specific time does the transfer deadline come into effect??? By what date do you have to dump or live with your relationship until January???

The 5th? The 6th? Any later and you risk ruining Christmas for someone(It’s the most magical time of year, it can’t be messed with!)

But, if you can’t break up with someone until January(it has to carry on through the new year)does that not a little bit ruin Christmas for the dumper, they might not have hurt their soon to be exes feelings, but what they are doing is suffering through the longest month of their life in a doomed relationship.

And what about New Years resolutions? If it’s to break up with someone does that take precedence over transfer restrictions? Or do you have to wait until after the Christmas period is over? The 15th? If you leave it too late do you have to hang in another month until after Valentines day??? Arrrrrgh!!! Why are they so many holidays where it’s unspeakably cruel to dump someone!!!!

But needs must. Just as putting up a Christmas tree, buying an advent calendar is a Christmas tradition, so too should Transfer deadline be a part of Christmas tradition(Amazing idea!! It can be on the inside window on the 6th for Advent calendars so no one forgets ever!)

If you want to break up with someone either do it soon or don’t do it all! And if you don’t comfort yourself with the knowledge that at least you’re guaranteed a Christmas present!

Until next time,

Huuuuuuuugs!

Xoxo

P.S. Should we honour transfer deadline day in someway? An extra special meal, an extra special outfit? I vote black tie! It’s not everyday you break up with someone, nor is it everyday you can wear a ballgown or a tux!